Are You Going in the Right Direction?

Yesterday I was driving trying to find my way to a meeting. I was on like meeting number five, and I was exhausted, it was late, and although I had a “general idea” where I was going, I was also not 100% clear about my direction. I knew the name of the place where I was going, the street, and the city it was located in, but I ran into a detour that got me off course. So picture this, I make a turn on a dark road I drive down this street, and it’s a dead end. Not just any dead end, but a scary kind of crazy, dead end, and as my mind went to the crazy “I’ve been watching too many movies on TV place” I was like wow, how did I get here.

Perhaps you have experienced something like this as well, not just while you were driving, but in your life. You were going along you had a “plan”, and you “knew” where you wanted to go, but life sent you a detour, and now you are in a place that you don’t know, and you don’t want to be. Hmm frustrating! If you are there don’t worry, I have been there too.

Today so many people are in a vicious cycle, up and then down, down and then up. They are smart, have tons of skills but they just seem to be STUCK! It’s not that they aren’t capable, because this isn’t about being capable. This is about knowing where you are going and then being committed to doing what you need to do to get there.
We all have circles so that is not the problem; it is instead that some of us stay in our circles way too long.

Are you tired yet?

For me, going down that crazy, dark, dead end street was enough. I was tired of wasting time. I had other options, and so I decided to use them. I turned around, got my bearings, and then I looked for the tools around me that could help me in my current situation.

Realize where you are!

You have to know when you are going in circles, and you have to be willing to do something about it. Circles in our lives look like continuing to do what is comfortable, doing things we know don’t work, and not making consistent changes. If we don’t change, we will continue to get the same results. STUCK, STUCK, STUCK! Here, are some questions to ask yourself. Are you in the same place today, that you were in a month ago, six months ago, or a year ago? If you said yes to any of those questions, you should ask yourself if you are really moving forward or are you just moving in circles.

Get a plan and a direction. My clients and I do this exercise together all the time. We determine if they have a plan, and then we find out the areas where it is not working so we can change it. If you don’t have a plan how will you ever get where you are trying to go. Moving is easy, but going in a circle is moving, it’s just not productive. Many of us waste precious time moving, but were not going anywhere. A plan makes you think about where you want to go and then makes you think about how you are going to get there. Be serious about getting a plan, and a direction! Where do you want to go and what are you willing to do to get it?

Use the tools!

When I was on that dead end street, I realized I was in a car with tons of tools that could help me find my way out of the situation I was in, or would of helped me avoid it all together. Eventually, I used Siri to help me get my bearings so I could find my way to a familiar road. With one small modification, I was on my way. Do you realize you could be a few short steps away from having the life you have always dreamed of, but if you don’t ask people or get help you could stay right where you are. So close, but so far away, not asking for help or investing in ourselves keeps us in our own boxes and makes seeing our way out difficult and often impossible. IT is one of the biggest barriers to growth. DIY is great for side projects here and there, but when things are important find and expert and save your valuable time for the things you want to do.

Care enough about yourself to save yourself the time, aggravation, and money. Leave the circles for your celebration cakes and keep moving!

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